I was speaking with my boss today, grumbling about a couple of my cow-orkers and the cows they bring to the team. My teammates are frustrating at times, and my feelings have ranged from, these guys are complete lunatics, to thinking they are just a couple of points above moronic. But, I have come to the conclusion that you just have to play with the cards that you were dealt.
One of my friends has wound himself up so tight because of his coworkers, that he is constantly unhappy. So unhappy in fact that I can't hang out with him anymore. That was a hard decision to make, giving up on a friendship that I had invested 4 years of my life. But, my friend couldn't handle the cards he was dealt.
I have been thinking about "team dynamics" for over a year now. I left a "perfect team" that was so disfunctional it was starting to drive me nuts. I left and joined another "perfect team". The job was good, the people were smart and it was going to be a good growing opportunity. And then reality set in two months later. It was the same situation, with different people, only I was a little more experienced in handling relationships. So, this time, instead of fighting against the river, I just started to flow with it. We don't have the cleanest code, or the best datamodel and our application has some bugs... But I am a happy person, doing the best I can, with what I have, to make the application better.
Maybe one of these days I will learn to load the deck so the cards fall out just the way I want, but until then, I will just deal with the randomness of the cards and play the best game I can.
Posted by carl at June 2, 2003 06:30 PM
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